|My husband and I enjoying the day in the nearby state park.|
It is easy to get so caught up in the routine of life that we can lose the excitement we experienced in the dating days. You know, the thrilling time spent planning or waiting for that lovely surprise you or your mate planned. The afternoons spent getting ready so that everything would be just right. Finally, the moment when nothing else mattered but that space of time together. Those dates were special, and they don't have to end simply because we have each other present more often now in marriage. I had been encouraged since the start of our marriage to maintain a date night once or twice a month. It's the difference between merely existing together and fully living in love with one another.
The challenge, of course, is to find different and fun activities to do so. Maintaining date nights shouldn't break the bank, and thus become a stressor in themselves. The experience is so much more personal when we can be attentive to each other's personality and interests and create a date time around those qualities. Is there a favorite type of food or resturant? Perhaps recreate the mood and cuisine of that sort in the home. Is there a love for nature? Perhaps create a picnic, hike, or other outside escape. A date night could also be as simple as a bowl of popcorn and a movie. I do enjoy watching a movie together, but try to make sure this isn't all we're doing because watching a screen leaves little opportunity for us to interract. That is the point after all in order to build our marriage.There are numerous ways to capture the delight of love in a marriage. We simply must be attentive and work towards showing it.