tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post5583630479909630731..comments2023-06-08T07:33:13.249-07:00Comments on Reviving Homemaking: Homemaking Without ChildrenWhitneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02565993597437176915noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-4779730685035368222014-11-29T17:20:34.496-08:002014-11-29T17:20:34.496-08:00I really appreciate this post in support of the st...I really appreciate this post in support of the stay-at-home wife. Some of us stay at home wives God may never bless with children, however. I don't want to live my life in constant preparation for something that God never allows. I feel like my purpose in being a stay-at-home wife is to make a lovely, well run home for my husband and myself, be more available to help my husband in his ministry (down to grading papers for his Bible classes!), and have time to be hospitable/ do good works. I'm not able to work because of Lyme disease, but I plan on staying home as I improve and get well, and find ways to be a "worker at home" - productive like the Proverbs 31 woman! I think in our feminist society, making career sacrifices for children are understandable, but making career sacrifices for a husband is considered demeaning. My husband appreciates the work I do around our home so much more than anyone at a job ever has - don't feel demeaned at all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-81779439401762031102013-05-31T19:56:36.837-07:002013-05-31T19:56:36.837-07:00Thank you for this article! I just left a very bu...Thank you for this article! I just left a very busy stress filled job to be at home with my husband and I have to say that I've received support from most but some harsh questions from others. Thank you:) I'm on day 3 now of my new "job" and I'm doing a deep clean of my house and loving it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-30156429859218387742013-03-04T12:34:05.730-08:002013-03-04T12:34:05.730-08:00I'm so glad that I came across your post. I my...I'm so glad that I came across your post. I myself am waiting to have children, but to no avail as yet. I'm a stay-at-home-wife. When I get asked the question, "what do YOU do all day?", I feel put down already. It seems like they have no concept of what you said above in your post, and I feel really challenged on what to answer. I wish I could recite your whole post to them. Thanks for all that you wrote! Especially quoting the scriptures :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-72936344743320564172013-02-27T14:34:59.403-08:002013-02-27T14:34:59.403-08:00I am also a homemaker with no kids and I love it! ...I am also a homemaker with no kids and I love it! A lot of people do not understand why I stay home, I get comments like "what do you do all day?" or "I would go crazy if I stayed home" "Aren't you bored?" <br />NO I'm not at all I read take care of my home I make jewelery, I visit friends, I take care of our home, I workout. I consider it a privilege. Some women works some don't we need to respect each others choices. I think a lot more women would stay home if they could.My husband loves it. It's all that matter. <br />Don't worry about what other people think, to each his own. <br /> Crafty Spaces7https://www.blogger.com/profile/12309031261575575202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-72336146947489890872012-12-27T11:44:34.222-08:002012-12-27T11:44:34.222-08:00Thank you so very much! I resigned from my full-t...Thank you so very much! I resigned from my full-time position as Deputy Director of Operations at the Cameron Art Museum in Wilmington, NC at age 28. I know God led me right to your blog; what you've written, along with the comments from others, echoed the insecurity (and frankly sometimes depressing thoughts) I have been experiencing this week. I have felt like I made a stupid, selfish decision and that I should be out changing the world. But I ADORE caring for my husband and our home more than I could ever express to those who don't understand! And I have time, energy and focus enough to read my Bible and spend real time with God. He is molding me daily as I'm convicted and encouraged by His word. Thank you for writing; I don't feel alone anymore. Please continue! Happy@Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12882736975077078419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-52605811298256305912012-10-19T03:50:40.804-07:002012-10-19T03:50:40.804-07:00Sarah, thank you so much for sharing. It is always...Sarah, thank you so much for sharing. It is always so encouraging to hear stories of others who are on a path that focuses on home. Thank you also for the sweet words in regard to my blog itself! :)Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565993597437176915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-50724571825266141192012-10-18T15:27:03.076-07:002012-10-18T15:27:03.076-07:00I totally agree. I have been through the no kids,...I totally agree. I have been through the no kids, had children and raised them and am now empty nesting so again no children. Even if we did not have children I would have been at home. I am still needed and want to be at home. There is never an end to what I can and Want to do here. By the way your blog is beautifully written I think too! Thank you. SarahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-42520005336594675682012-09-12T22:02:50.781-07:002012-09-12T22:02:50.781-07:00Thanks for sharing, Meghan! I believe that there a...Thanks for sharing, Meghan! I believe that there are numerous roles and blessings that can be had while homemaking without children. I'm making efforts to regularly go see my Grandmother. The last visit we talked and talked while shelling and canning peas. I adore those stories and moments shared! Though I'm not expecting, I can understand how much of a blessing it is to be able to be home caring for your body at it's pace when ill. I'm still working on developing hospitality. I really enjoy getting together with others and believe the home is an excellent setting for such moments. We probably aren't as good at extending hospitality as we'd like, but we're working in it. :)Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565993597437176915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-58757394270056890492012-09-12T21:02:32.129-07:002012-09-12T21:02:32.129-07:00Until four months ago, I was a childless housewife...Until four months ago, I was a childless housewife and I appreciated how much time it afforded us to invest in our marriage and how much time it allowed me to develop new hobbies and skills (like sewing, embroidery, and blogging). It also allowed us to extend hospitality much more frequently than we otherwise would have and allowed me to move in with my grandparents three weeks per month in the final months of my grandmother's life to care for her full time. It was precious time with her I wouldn't have had if I had a job outside the home or children. Additionally, when I did become pregnant, I was so ill throughout my pregnancy that I wouldn't have been able to hold an outside job anyway.Meghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08366931718780841876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-80758939497272905362012-05-29T19:22:09.265-07:002012-05-29T19:22:09.265-07:00Another great post! I became a homemaker after ha...Another great post! I became a homemaker after having my son, so I've had nothing but on-the-job training. BUT, if I could do it over, I would have done everything I could to be a homemaker from the time I was married. I do think it would have made a difference. But, alas, this wasn't the Lord's plan. So, in that case, I'll take this post and encourage those who are making a home without children.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09436036572780759085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-30468615760338419282012-05-09T06:40:48.239-07:002012-05-09T06:40:48.239-07:00Thank you so much for sharing this post!! I decide...Thank you so much for sharing this post!! I decided to stay home a few months ago after having a hard time finding steady work and also hating most of the jobs I had worked. I felt that I was being called to stay at home so I could take care of my home and my husband. I am loving this time to be able to hone my homemaking skills before we have children!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16333903811800410286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-9618802960936113872012-04-03T07:41:57.829-07:002012-04-03T07:41:57.829-07:00I am a homemaker without children. I want children...I am a homemaker without children. I want children, but they haven't come yet. I feel that God is giving me this time to heal from past jobs I have absolutely hated. I am trying to be thankful for this time that my husband and I can enjoy each other and improve our marriage. He is happier with a clean house, good food, and a happy wife! I am happy that I don't hate my job!<br /> <br />Thank you so much for this blog. I thought I was alone in the world. I am still looking for a job, but I am happier being a homemaker! It is great to find Christian support online and a great reminder that God truly does have a plan for our lives.Amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-14496767157141320332012-02-05T21:16:28.885-08:002012-02-05T21:16:28.885-08:00Great post! We tried to conceive for 7 years befor...Great post! We tried to conceive for 7 years before our first, and during that time, my blessed hubby encouraged and wanted me to stay home. I am so very grateful for those years. I have a rambunctious house now, but I do treasure those preparation and maturity years.Cindyhttp://apronstringsandappletrees.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-17163569474784395122012-02-05T11:55:17.093-08:002012-02-05T11:55:17.093-08:00Love this post!! I am a homemaker without children...Love this post!! I am a homemaker without children and have never worked outside the home as health issues brought me home. I have been criticized, insulted and vilified! No one respects my choice in real life besides my husband. <br /><br />I really do think that my health issues were a blessing in disguise as I have realized that I do not want to be superwoman and that being home has taught me to live under our means. I also realized that I am a total homebody and that homemaking IS a full time job if you do it well! I am not a fan of feminism and am growing into the wife and woman I want to be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-44309915668312008742012-01-27T17:43:53.212-08:002012-01-27T17:43:53.212-08:00I worked outside of the home very little in the ne...I worked outside of the home very little in the nearly 8 yrs before we had children. I worked 5 months as a waitress, a school yr as a teacher, and 8 months in a photo lab, plus various odds and ends babysitting--but none of that was regular work. I did volunteer. At one point it was too much, and my husband and I had to talk about it, and I had to tone it down. <br /><br />I remember someone asking me what I DID with all my day at home....and I couldn't think of what I did--I just knew I was very busy! hahaha! I'd have a better answer now, but I also wasn't expecting someone to ask that! But I took care of my husband. He had the weirdest schedules, and it was constantly changing. I was able to bring lunch by work in the 30 min he'd be there before having to run and be gone for the next 2 days, or bring supper at 10pm, when he was closing out business before coming home. We'd share those few moments together--often the only moments we had that day. I started waking with him, to make sure he had a FULL breakfast in him--as he rarely ate lunch, and could come home anytime between 6-10pm for supper. Or not at all, if last minute he had to go elsewhere. Had I been at work, I would have missed all those stolen moments. <br /><br />Sometimes, he would wistfully look at the couples with 2 incomes (me too) and wonder how much "fun" life would be with 2 paychecks--but I knew he'd HATE me being tied down. And so would I! We didn't have a ton of money, and we didn't get to do everything we wished, or even most things, but with carefulness in budgeting, we could go out here and there, or do fun things together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-29562558111752265042012-01-26T08:54:32.429-08:002012-01-26T08:54:32.429-08:00I so appreciate this post. It's a constant bar...I so appreciate this post. It's a constant barrage of discouragement to staying at home without children; even among CHRISTIANS. I wish more women talked about and encouraged this. <br />And thank you for encouraging me again to redeem this valuable time. My husband didn't think we could live on one income but by the Lord's grace we're almost debt free and thriving. I needed your reminder to get on the ball and be more self-disciplined. Thanks again!Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00524674212011986183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-27645272551645703922012-01-26T06:34:58.025-08:002012-01-26T06:34:58.025-08:00I too am a stay at home wife without children. Tru...I too am a stay at home wife without children. Truely I thought I must be the only one in the world. So happy to have found your blog and find that I am not alone. My husband is my first priority as I beleive God intended and I feel it is my place and my blessing to be home to take care of him. His coworkers are always jealous when he tells them the things I am able to do for him because their wives can't/won't do things for their spouses. He works a strange work schedule and by my being home I am always free to be with him. I believe we are closer than any couple I know and I believe it is because I stay home AND because we do not have children taking my attention. Many couples jump in too quickly to having children and never get to spend quality time together first learning how to love their spouse properly. <br />Thank you for your blog and I am new follower. :)Brendanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-66593171233804974522012-01-25T13:11:10.712-08:002012-01-25T13:11:10.712-08:00Thanks for this post and for how God is shining th...Thanks for this post and for how God is shining through your life! I'm single, but this post was still a blessing and inspirational. Thank you!Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17816325664623435817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-58903509039622449482012-01-24T19:36:11.106-08:002012-01-24T19:36:11.106-08:00This is great, and I am so happy for you that you ...This is great, and I am so happy for you that you are pursuing this. I became a homemaker on the day my first baby was born - I was a student, and working, through the 11 months of marriage that preceded baby. That was 13 years ago now and I STILL wish I had made better use of those months by staying home!Desireehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528621005453402499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-50107153692405732602012-01-24T16:14:54.814-08:002012-01-24T16:14:54.814-08:00I truly appreciated this post. As a full-time Home...I truly appreciated this post. As a full-time Homemaker who has not been currently blessed with children, sometimes, I feel that I am doing the "wrong thing" because I am "all alone," for I am the "lone woman" without beautiful children to raise. It's beautiful to read a post like this to help encourage me in the calling that the Lord has given to me in this season of life. It's also a relief and a comfort to know that I am not the only woman who is caring for her home full-time without the current blessings of children. <br /><br />-M. Wildflower from Growing Home link-up and your newest "follower. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-49185775236548232112012-01-24T13:23:35.914-08:002012-01-24T13:23:35.914-08:00What a lovely post!
Life never quite works out th...What a lovely post! <br />Life never quite works out the way we plan, so when I had a little one I had to work (but I was lucky enough to take her with me.) <br />Now that I have a blended family, but all the children are in school I am fortunate enough to stay home. <br />Many people ask how & why? But I think why not? <br />Not every one is blessed with the skill/ability to enjoy homemaking. I am. Many are. I think those of us that enjoy creating a loving, safe, clean, warm inviting home for our families should give ourselves a pat on the back. lol.<br />My mama taught me the value of what a woman does in the home and I intend to show my girls. Proverbs 31 is my favorite. ;)<br />Happy to find you on Time Warp Wives Link Up.<br /><br />http://myhappilyeverafteragain.blogspot.comMFEO2009https://www.blogger.com/profile/04204650566306925124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-11257878652518454092012-01-23T19:49:02.977-08:002012-01-23T19:49:02.977-08:00Whitney, these are wise words: "to wait "...Whitney, these are wise words: "to wait "x amount of time" for circumstances to change, or for our responsibility as a spouse and in our marriage to begin is foolishness". My brother and his wife waited and waited for it to be perfect to have a family and now they are in their 50s and have no children. they are now understanding that they were not trusting in the lord but in themselves. Thank you for sharing this perspective...Jacqueline @ Deeprootsathome.comhttp://www.deeprootsathome.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-3475883960428427962012-01-20T21:21:56.800-08:002012-01-20T21:21:56.800-08:00Had to comment for two reasons...
One, this is a ...Had to comment for two reasons...<br /><br />One, this is a great post! One of the biggest blessings for me being a homemaker without children is that I am so much happier and more fulfilled than I was while working a job I hated. I also feel blessed that I am able to figure out homemaking so that when I do have children I'll be more organized and be a better mother for it.<br /><br />Second, you commented a post a while ago about checking out the sneaky chef. I checked out her website and tried her chili recipe yesterday and didn't tell my husband (which was hard to do!) He couldn't tell at all! Needless to say I'm going to be investing in her book, and I just wanted to thank you for mentioning it to me!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04527019242021735386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-14233100530556205532012-01-19T18:51:04.330-08:002012-01-19T18:51:04.330-08:00Love this post! I actually wrote about something ...Love this post! I actually wrote about something similar today. I agree with you that it's been wonderful practice learning how to make a house a home. And I would add that even if you don't have children, there are so many opportunities for ministry from home. The number of elderly people who could use help or even just a friendly visit from a neighbor is amazing to me. I also really love the flexibility in my schedule. I have things I need to get done, but I can shift my tasks around to meet other priorities as they arise.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591518304156689965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727134224940426901.post-77959963997367977962012-01-19T13:20:55.779-08:002012-01-19T13:20:55.779-08:00Thanks for that great post!
I didn't have any ...Thanks for that great post!<br />I didn't have any time at home really without children (I finished my studies while pregnant with my first child) but boy do I wish I had!!! There are so many things I have to learn and doing so with the pressure children put on your time and budget it's really hard because there is far less room for mistakes, lake of skills and their consequence! I have been at home for 5 years now but I'm only starting to figure out my job as a homemaker: better late than never! <br />What is funny is that everybody around me expect me to find a "real" job as soon as the children are in school and they have a terribly hard time understanding my desire not to do so!<br />thanks so much for sharing your experience and insights.<br /><br />Rose from switzerlandAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com